It's a life-long learning process. You get good at it through experiences and growing up.
For a start, at least what you need to know is learn to observe.
Never ever judge the people surrounds us, the friends and the closed ones.
If you do that, you may as well hurt their feelings.
Because in this life, at some points...not even you truly understand yourself.
Kerna sesungguhnya, Yang Maha Esa mengetahui diri kita lebih dari yang kita tahu.